It’s funny how you could be at some random place and someone starts taking pictures of a child just because they are “cute”.. I find that rather odd and discomforting. My sister, who has 2 mixed full blown American blood girls, is baffled how people can just approach her daughter and stroke her blonde hair and look deep into her blue eyes. Some even approach her eldest daughter asking to take pictures with her because she’s so pretty. That’s really flattering but to many people, it’s just plain dodgy.
Us Malaysians can be/are very friendly. It’s great how friendly people can be and honestly, it’s really uplifting. The only problem many people have is that we tend to get a little too friendly, like the above mentioned.
For me, I usually don’t say much about it as my line of industry requires the picture taking, the hand shaking, the smiling, etc, etc.
Question is, how friendly is too friendly?
From a flyer I had just recently picked up at PPBM, there were some great tips and insights.
The following are some very useful tips you could use to protect your child from stranger danger including a couple of tips of my own…
- Establish a close and open relationship with your child at an early age, this will make it easier for them to ask you for help and builder their self-esteem.
- Empower your child with honest and factual information about their body and let them know what is and isn’t appropriate touching.
- Teach your child what everyone’s private areas (covered by their swimsuit) are just for themselves and no one should try touch them.
- Most child abuse and abduction cases are by someone the child knows – teach your child to say NO if they ever feel uncomfortable around anyone.
- Never force a child to hug or kiss a relative if they don’t want to. it’s ok to say no if they feel uncomfortable, they don’t need to be polite.
- Establish a “no secrets” rule in your family, especially if something makes your child feel nervous, scared or they don’t have that “uh-oh” feeling.
- give your child the names (and phone numbers) of at least 3 trusted adults ho they can always confide in, especially if you’re not available.
- Teach your children to never go anywhere with an adult they don’t know, and if they become lost, go to a mother with children or to STOP and yell for help.
- Never leave your child with a person you don’t trust.
- Create a secret password between you and your children. if ever a stranger approaches your child, have your child ask the stranger for the password.
Educating your child to be wary of strangers at a very young age is always best. Personally, I try to remind my daughter on the do’s and don’ts before we get out of the car to carry on our day. Another thing I try to do is teach her how to protect herself if ever, God forbid, anything happened to her and that’s to kick punch and hit the person in between the legs, bite as hard as she can and even poke the persons eyes, not to forget, scream! I also remind her never to approach people who give sweets or who are walking their pets.