Parents Are Always Right……. NOT!!
How often do we go, “You have to do it because I said so”? Do kids always have to listen to our every command because as parents, we have the upper-hand and are always right (even when we are wrong)? Are we really parents or are we, dictators?
Usually, when things don’t go right with our children, we tend to point our fingers to everyone else except to ourselves. Teachers and carers especially, are the first to get the blame. Like how could we, the parents, have gone wrong with all the money and ‘time’ spent on our beloved, most precious gems right?
No. We. Us. Parents have to take all the blame because at the end of the day, they are our kids, our responsibilities, OURS. Education begins at home and nowhere else (unless of course, our kids don’t stay with us under the same roof, that is a different set of lifestyle altogether).
Here is a list of the most common parenting mistakes we “inadvertently” do. And if you read deeper, you might, just might… Find the solution to our most common problems.
• If your child lies to you often, it’s because he saw you reacting harshly to their appropriate behavior.
• If your child has poor self esteem, it’s because you advise them more than you encourage them.
• If your child doesn’t stand up for himself at a young age, it’s because you have always been reprimanding (disciplining) them publicly.
• If your child takes things that don’t belong to them, it’s because you buy them many things but you do not let them choose them for themselves.
• If your child acts cowardly (timid), it’s because you come to their aid ever so quickly.
• If your child doesn’t care about other people’s feelings, it’s because you command your child more that having conversations with them.
• If your child is quick in anger, it’s because they seek your attention, which you give only when they misbehave.
• If your child is violent towards others, it’s because you are violent in in disciplining them.
• If your child is prone to jealousy, it’s because you only encourage them when they do extremely well and don’t appreciate them when they do just good.
• If your child physically disturbs you, it’s because you don’t see them enough and are always distracted.
• If your child shows defiance openly, it’s because you always show arrogance with unreasonable requests.
• If your child is secretive, it’s because you broke and betrayed their trust.
• If your child doesn’t listen to you but listens to others, it’s because you always make decisions but never stand by them (eg: empty threats & unfulfilled promises).
• If your teen rebels, it’s because you have shown them that you worry more about what others think and perceive and not what they feel.
*credit to : Sheikh Yahya Ibrahim