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The past couple of days have been rough.. As Ariana would say, “my heart run away!” which basically means, “i was so scared”, or i’m freaked out. How could freaking out be rough over these 2 days you may ask? Well, here goes….
First….. We were out at the play place on wednesday so I could let the girls drain out their energy and sleep early as I had a class to attend at 8pm. Ameera is in bed by 630pm most of the time but Ariana usually needs me to lie down with her until she passed out. Anywaaayy… We got to the play place by about 330pm so we could be there for at least 3 hours since they love they place so much, have a bit to eat and be home by 6 so they can mandi and get ready for bed..
So happens, an old friend happen to be there whom I haven’t seen for about 2 years. We set the kids free to run, jump and climb everywhere while we caught up with each other. While talking, Ameera was up the slide (she can go up the stair and down the slide unassisted now but I always wait at the bottom just in case), I see her kindda leaning forward so I reacted to that in a way that she might fall face forward down the slide. As my reflexes went, some how i tripped and fell on my face instead while Ameera was still up the slide waiting to come down. Using my hands to break my fall, the impact was pretty rough but it didn’t affect me so much.. But the next day, I felt as if my muscle has just torn and my arm was about to fall off. I could still move my arm and whatever but the pain was so WOW!!
Today (the day after the play place), while preparing dinner, Ameera happened to have a plastic fork in her hand. I wanted to take it from her then she ran off like she always does when we wanna confiscate something she enjoys playing with AND/or is related to FOOD. Enjoying the fun run, she puts the fork in her mouth WHILE running the trips over the carpet and falls face first. MAN! seriously! What happened next is like…. seriously.. can’t even rethink it….
She gets up and the fork is stuck in the carpet but snapped in half, i check her mouth for any pieces and blood is pouring out of her mouth!!! I pick her up, rush straight into the kitchen to rinse her mouth but the blood just kept coming out.. Wearing nothing but her nappy, I grab a towel for her mouth, grab a tudung, grab Ariana, strapped them both in the car and drove straight to out neighbourhood doctor.. But as we got into the car, she had stopped crying. The blood had stopped oozing out. She starts asking for her shoes. I ask her, “Are you ok, baby?”, she says, “yeah!”. Just then, I fingured, ok, the wound might not be that bad but I should take her to get it checked anyway. Just in case.
I parked the car and Ameera shouts out, “YEY! wok! wok!” (Wok = walk). I say to her, “lets go see doctor first, then we can go walk, ok baby?”, “Yeh!”, she replies.
Ok… You may think I’m nuts to be having a conversation with a 17month old baby but you know what, these babies really do know what you’re saying to them if you speak to them properly since the day they were born, mashaAllah.
So I put her shoes on, Ariana jumps out of the car with us and we go see the doctor. Alhamdulillah, the there was noone waiting so we just walked straight into the doctors office. Doctor tries to have a look inside Ameeras mouth but of course, put anything in a babys (who enjoys eating) mouth and they would think you’re feeding them! LOL! So we pretended to brush her teeth because she likes brushing her teeth.. “AAAAAAHHHHHHHH….. chekeh chekeh chekeh….” she opens her mouth and doctors says that the wouldn’t isn’t bad and if it were, the bleeding wouldn’t have stopped. I kindda figured that out already when the bleeding did stop but nothing wrong with having someone confirm my thoughts.
I asked if she’d be able to eat and if she did, would it possibly sting. Doctor told me to give her 2 hours before I fed her. Problem was, she was to go to sleep within the hour, so he said to just give it a try. What happened you may ask? When we got home, I served the girls their dinner and Ameera just gobbled everthing up like she usually does. Alhamdulillah for no difficulty on that.
So that was my rough couple of days. My arm is still killing me though. But you know what, alhamdulillah Ameera is fine. Alhamdulillah it wasn’t a pencil in her mouth! Seriously, if it were one of Ariana’s colour pencils, I donno… I don’t even wanna imagine. Alhamdulillah it was a plastic fork. Alhamdulillah the fork broke upon impact. Alhamdulillah! Alhamdulillah! Alhamdulillah!!!
Has something like this ever happened to you? How did you react to it?
God is Great! Allahuakbar! May He protect my family from any harm, the seen and the unseen. May He protect all of us. May bless us all with much strength and patience in raising our children towards the deen. May we all be amongst the righteous. May we strive to meet him and our beloved Prophet in the Hereafter. Aameen
Naturally, as a parent, you’d get pretty upset when you catch you’re preschooler telling a lie. You wonder what you had done wrong as a parent for this to even happen. Don’t be too hard on yourself and especially to your preschooler about this. Lying and untruthfulness is developmentally normal for a preschooler. And that means that every parent goes through it.
When children break something, spill drinks and even hurt people accidentally, it is only natural for them to deny the fact they had actually did it because in actual fact, they never really wanted for it to happen in the first place and also, they don’t want to get in trouble for it. Best way to deal with these incidents is to disregard the fact that they had told the lie and focus on how to fix the problem. For instance, if your child spills her drink and denies it, don’t go crazy over her lying about, just grab a cloth and ask her (nicely) to help you clean it up.
However, if your child does mess up and actually admits it, be sure to praise him for his honesty. If this is practiced, it will encourage him to always tell the truth as he grows older.
Bare in mind, there is a difference between lying and making up imaginary stories. She might tell you that she was outside and she had found some dinosaur eggs and the little baby dinosaurs are inside and they can’t find their mummy and the eggs need to be put in a nest to keep warm so that they can hatch. Unless it is wrong and hurtful towards others, stories like these are practically innocent. In fact, stories like these are great for your childs’ mental development. To encourage your child even more, try asking her for more details of the story, maybe she found some rocks she is pretending to be the “eggs”, try have her draw what the baby dinosaur may look like, what their mummy looks like, where do they live? Activities like these help with expanding their imagination and also helps with their critical thinking.
To avoid and discourage less fibbing in the future, talk with your child and explain why lying is wrong and how it effects other people. Of course you’ll be doing all the talking while she looks around the room, playing with her fingers or hair. But it’s always good to make it a habit to discuss these issues with your children no matter how old they are. Developing a relationship of trust and knowing that, in the future, you child will talk to you about pretty much anything.
THE MUMMY of this month is the beautiful and ever so inspiring, single, working mummy, Sasha Saidin. Juggling between being a full time mum and a part time celebrity/actress, With Love, Mummy gets close and personal to Sasha as she shares with us how she does it and how she handles it all physically, mentally and emotionally.
Tell us a little about Arya.
Adam Aryasenna Notosoemarsono was born on the 28th of August 2009 in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. A very affectionate child who has bursts of bountiful energy, he is just so full of life. He loves doing arts and crafts and can often be found to be drawing or making something out of something else. He also loves sports and currently is going for swimming classes and now that he can swim quite well, he says he would like to swim across the ocean.
How has motherhood changed your life?
When I found out that I was pregnant with Adam, it was a complete surprise as it was at a regular scheduled checkup that the doctor discovered that I was indeed pregnant which was wonderful news that I couldnt wait to tell those close to me. Immediately however I had to put a halt to my career as the doctor had given me strict instructions to take it easy and get as much rest as I could at least for the first trimester. However, I later decided to take a leave altogether from the entertainment scene to raise Adam without any domestic help, wanting to be there every step of the way to watch his developments and every single milestone.
How have you been coping with being a single mum to an active little boy?
First and foremost I have to admit that I am blessed to have a mother that is so supportive of me being a single mother and a celebrity too especially since I got divorced and had to go back to work as a working single mother. Nanna as Adam calls his grandmother is whom helps me take care of him whenever I am out working and she also does a fantastic job home schooling Adam with extra lessons and interesting arts curriculum during the school holiday seeing that she has a background of have being a school teacher of 30 years. I love coming home even on days that I am exhausted and walking through the front door to have Adam come running to me to give me lotsa hugs and kisses.
How do you balance between being an active celebrity/actress and being a mum?
My motto is ‘ Full time mum, part time celebrity’ because to me being a mum should always come first. However I am also lucky that Adam understands that Mummy needs to go out to work to earn money to pay for bills, to save up for holidays and of course the occasional toys whenever he has been on his best behaviour. There are times though when I may have to travel abroad for my work and at times I’d be away for weeks which can be very hard on us but I always make sure there is some sort of communication such as Skype so that he knows where I am and what I am doing. And of course whenever I have some free time I will choose to spend quality time with Adam playing in the park, socialising in playgroups or just going to the cinema which he loves too!
Have you even been/felt judged being a single parent?
I have been lucky in the sense that I have never been judged as a single parent or for any of the decisions that I had to make that lead me to become a single parent. And even if there was I dont think I would let it bother me too much as I am blessed with such supportive family members as well as good friends who are with me very step of the way. If anything, since I have been a single parent and the sole breadwinner for my child and me, I have had tremendous positive reinforcement even from strangers who wish to know how they can help me in any way they can. This has touched me many times and its always nice to know that such acts of kindness is what motivates many other single parents out there to try and juggle many responsibilities in raising a child or children on their own.
What is the hardest part about being a single mum?
The hardest part most of the time for me would be when I have to leave for work and Adam gets upset and insists that I work from home or take him with me to work. Although I know I am leaving him in the capable hands of his Nanna, but that feeling of temporary separation never gets easier.
What is the best part?
The best part is just cuddling with Adam after a long day reading him a bedtime story and having him fall asleep in my arms.
Whats a typical day like for you?
A typical day would be getting Adam prepared for school and dropping him off just like any other parent does but depending on what my work schedule is like I may have to delegate his Nanna to pick him up from school. Most of the time, with whatever errands I have Adam happily accompanies me and but I also try to keep to a set time of not getting him back too late as we have strict rules on bed times especially on school nights.
What is your most favourite thing to do with Arya?
My favourite thing to do with Adam is go to the movies with him whereby we usually take the train which he absolutely loves to go to the cinema within the mall. We’d get our hotdogs and popcorn, excitedly wait for the movie to start and usually halfway Adam will climb on top of me and sit on my lap to cuddle with me whilst watching the movie.
What would be the most important advice you could give to a single mum?
I don’t know if I could call it advice as I am still learning as a single mum myself and I still make minor mistakes along the way whereby I learn what to not repeat again in the future therefore I guess I would say don’t be too hard on yourself whenever you might slip up with your child as its certainly not an easy task to play so many roles all at the same time when bringing up a child. We will have good days and bad days and its the support from loved ones around us that matters the most, so don’t ever be shy or embarrassed to reach out or receive help from those that maybe concerned or simply just care for us.
photo credits: Sasha Saidin
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